October 11, 2006

Eight Social Networking Sites for Men Who Love Men

Marshall Kirkpatrick

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We were contacted today by the founder of the soon to launch social network for gay men BigJock.com. It lead us to take a look around the gay male online social networking space and write the following overview of some of the current market leaders.

Niche social networks are likely a viable business because they allow specialized functionality and a subjective community feel as opposed to general interest sites that defer to either the lowest common denominator or the 15-25 year old demographic. Many people want to participate in social networks, but many people prefer networks set up for people they can relate to. That makes sense to me. From the proudly professional to the happily hedonistic, there may be something on this list for everyone - or at least everyone who’s a gay man.

As you can see by the following short profiles, these sites targeting a demographic with two traits in common (gay men) are all very different. Just as there’s a wide diversity of gay men in the world, there may well be ample room for a variety of gay male social networking sites - presuming they are able to build sufficient critical mass for monetization and financial viability.

I won’t pretend to speak for gay men and I’m sure there are some sites I’m missing, but these appear to be the most talked about gay male social networking sites online. You can take or leave my reviews of them. Maybe they’ll be a look inside a niche market for some of our readers and maybe they’ll be links of love for others. I tried to note the ones where the guys were particularly hot.

Jake

Jake calls itself the world’s largest gay professional community. It’s very British. The company reports almost 30,000 members sending two million messages to each other over the past year and attending exclusive real world events together. Unlike others that discourage independent commercial activity, this site encourages users to advertise their own businesses and directly monetize their involvement with the site.

There’s a professional but stylish look and feel to Jake. Users are encouraged to use their real names and free accounts offer only two photos - one for yourself and one for your company’s logo for example.

Paid accounts are £10 per month. Paid members can access the dating section of the site, get more storage in their internal mailboxes, get priority invitations to real world events and bring guests, gain access to “business briefings” and a number of other things.

ManJam

ManJam is probably the most widely discussed of all of these social networking sites. It calls itself “a unique social network” but in fact it’s just one of many similarly branded copycat sites from JuxMedia Ltd. ManJam offers listings for rooms and houses for rent or to live in rent-free. There are listings from all around the world. There are job and business listings, many of which are in the Middle East. There are personal profile listings with text and video comments enabled for members. Free membership gets users access to rental listing details, IM, video and audio messaging. There is also a mobile component to ManJam. Profiles on this site support transgendered identities.

Premium members get entries in any of the categories moved up to the top of their respective listings. Paid accounts are $20 per month, $42 per quarter or $90 per year. This site looks solid enough and usability is decent, though I did get one 404. It doesn’t have the upper class affects of Jake.com but ManJam is hardly for low baggers either. If hot unclothed chests are what you are looking for then ManJam may be where you want to go.

Ohlalaguys

Ohlalalguys is a rebranded version of JuxMedia’s ManJam with even worse site navigation added. See also Bentlads, another one of these sites.

Lovetastic

Lovetastic is explicitely not for men looking to hook up with hunks of burning love. “Finally, gay personals that treat you like a person,” the site says. Lovetastic says its goal is to bring together husbands. It used to be called Scene404 and the old landing page is pretty cute, in a dorky kind of way.

Free account holders can post profiles, browse the site and receive messages. Paid accounts, starting at $6 per month, enable users to send messages and chat.

Lovetastic’s interface is the cleanest, simplest and easiest on the eyes of any of these sites. In some ways it’s got more class than any of them. There are randomly generated interview questions for profiles and nude or shirtless pictures are prohibited. The site is ad free. If this is the site for you, you’ll likely know as soon as you visit it.

Connexion

Connexion is LGBT online networking with a .org suffix. In addition to dating and events organizing the site focuses on low level political activity and news. There’s an RSS feed for news from the site. The site is a little awkward but not highly sexualized. Transgendered identity is supported on this site but not gender queer identities outside of those based on the Male/Female binary.

There aren’t paid memberships available for this nonprofit site but there are a handful of very unobtrusive ads. If you’re looking for news and political discussion in your LGBT social networking check out Connexion.

OutEverywhere

OutEverywhere is a paid service for men and women in select countries around the world. It is very text intensive, site navigation is unbearable. This site has an emphasis on promoting real world events and venues. I couldn’t handle looking at it very much but there is a tag cloud if you scroll way down on the front page! Memberships are £19.95 for 6 months with a 28 free trial period.

DList

DList looks like it was designed by someone from Gawker - in fact I’m sure it was. It’s a pretty straightforward social networking site with a good feature set. User blogs, topical site blogs to read, a music player on profile pages. It’s ad supported without premium accounts.

Without seeing more of what the community is like on DList, I imagine this site will be succeed if it can keep its costs down. It’s got all the basics taken care of and is attractive.

BigJock

The site that inspired this post, BigJock, will launch its full featured version on early next month. The version that’s already up looks very nice though. It will include all the basics plus a Hot or Not picture rating component. The site will be free and ad supported. You can sign up now for an account and enter to win an iPod. BigJock has a long way to go before it can compete with the heavyweights above, but anything is possible and there are clearly niche approaches underway throughout the gay male social networking market. And that monkey logo is not to be missed.

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  1. Ty

    Is this how you and Michael met? This helps explain the dorm-like, all male situation at the Arrington ranch, not that there’s anything wrong with it…

  2. MOose

    One word. “Ewww!…”

  3. Ali

    Now, we want a review of lesbian dating sites too!

  4. Marshall Kirkpatrick

    Ali, that’s a great idea - please leave any suggestions you have for sites to look at.

  5. Corvida

    Ditto what Ali stated. Unfortunately, I have no suggestions…

  6. Jawad Shuaib

    This is just what I needed! Thank you again, TechCrunch

  7. Josh

    Ah you forgot GayRomeo.com (based in Amsterdam, NL) - it’s free, available in six languages, they have a nice and feature-rich interface and 400.000 users after all.

  8. David

    Lipstick lesbians only, PLEASE!

  9. Startups.in/India

    Why can’t some one just start a niche “group” on Orkut or other similar site. How different is that from developing a totally exclusive site ?

  10. Skeptic

    India:

    Three words: “Money, money, money”.

  11. Mark

    Ew? Lipstick lesbians only? Seriously?

    Come on folks, please don’t tell me all the readers of this board are 12 years old.

  12. stvo

    noticeably missing from your list is downelink.com. in a nutshell i would describe it as and even more niche gay social networking site catering to gay asian men. of course that’s not to say that anybody is excluded. I would say its pretty popular in California, but as a user stats are not available to me.

  13. Tony

    What does this mean: “Transgendered identity is supported on this site but not gender queer identities outside of those based on the Male/Female binary.”? Seriously.

  14. Tcruncher2

    Marshall - bet you really had fun reviewing these sites mate haha ;)

  15. Martin

    You forgot Gaydar.co.uk. It’s been around for aaaaaaaaaages… Waaaaay before the social-networking bubble we’re going through. And it’s not only popular in the UK, it’s the most used gay hook-up site world-wide.

    It’s interface is a bit dated and messy, and they should really get rid of the paid functionality and develop an ad-supported business model, though.

  16. Josh

    When a site calls itself “ManJam” I can’t help but laugh.

    For some reason when I read this post I had “Its Raining Men” stuck in my head; just like that old skit on In Living Color.

    Can’t wait for the lesbian review. I am sure the reviews for Vagmasters, Vagster, and Vagerati will be titilating.

  17. Ty

    GuyParty.com is a gay social network!!!

  18. Ty

    Seee http://gaysocialnetworks.com/ for a full list of gay dating and social network sites.

  19. ABCotaa

    This is just wonderful. What’s next? NAMBLA social networking sites? How about some polygamy social networking sites? But like others have said, let’s have some equal time for the lesbian social networking sites.

    “Hated it!”

    Slow news day, today?

  20. Lisbeth

    Nice article.. i’m a lesbian girl myself, here in Denmark we have some very very nice sites for guys and lesbians.. very 2.0ish.. the one for guys is called http://www.flyguys.dk, and the one for girls is called http://www.flygirls.dk - i don’t know if they exists in an international version. :-D

  21. Startups.in/India

    Skeptic - But for the money they really aren’t solving any other problem.

  22. Bryan

    I dont understand why there needs to be so many options. Not just for gay\lesbian social networking … but for everything else. For the most part, they are all the same. Some may look nicer than others, but they offer the same features. Myspace is so popular becuase… because its so popular! All they had some right is to become popular with a few people, then the viral growth took over.

    Whether it is niche social networking, ajax homepages, user-generated news, or an online office suite… If none of these sites stand out from the crowd, what makes them all think they can survive?

  23. Sam Sethi

    We also reviewed the UK gay social netwroking site QueensSpeech a few months ago. http://uk.techcrunch.com/2006/.....ensspeech/

    It doesn’t suprise me that there are so many GAY social networks. They are all chasing the “pink pound” as we call it in the UK which has a very strong advertising pull behind it. i.e advertisers of potentially gay related products have realised this community is very lucrative and also very tight-knitted and will certainly recommend good products to each other.

    Sites like the QueensSpeech are going to do very well in getting their share of this advertising money IF they can build a community quickly.

  24. Robert P.

    Thank you so much for this post. It really encourages me that some people can get past the useless stereotypes and bigotry to realize that we’re all just people. Niche markets should be interesting to anyone who likes making money… Thank you, Marshall.

  25. Leigh Hunt

    I wanted to see The ManHole. I think its a great name for a Gay Place.

  26. Amit

    Its pretty messed up that some of these reviewed websites have membership fees. OutEverywhere’s £19.95 for 6 months sounds like a rip-off. Wouldn’t this deter gay men and cause them to join gay social groups on MySpace, Facebook, etc?

  27. rxbbx

    @Amit:
    People are willing to pay for it, if you can guarantee that there are no fakers and the scene / community is real. Interesting list.

  28. Alex

    LOL Marshall,

    Thanks for this.

    =/

  29. Phoenix

    Interesting.. You have made a statement there for TechCrunch that there is no place for bias in your reviews. Way to go!

  30. lemon obrien

    alternative culture is the net.

  31. Sarah

    You forgot cottaging.co.uk we\’re UK dedicated social network for gay guys seeking intimate encounters… also gaydar which is the largest in the UK by miles.

    xx

  32. Michael Arrington

    Phoenix - we’re all about bias at techcrunch, we just don’t happen to have a sexual orientation bias.

  33. Audrey Poon

    From the looks of it, the BigJock website is the only “true” social network in that it costs nothing, unlike most of those mentioned, and it will have all the regular stuff….and the monkey is very cool, I love the tank top!

  34. "MAF54"

    I think it’s pretty obvious that Marshall and Mike are both straight. They also missed a subtly named site called gay.com

  35. Erwan

    You also forgot gayther.com which is the international version of rezog.com, the biggest gay social network in France.

    It’s widely free, and more than 25 000 members sends 400 000 messages to each other daily.

    Site navigation is really great ! the french experience of the “minitel” ?

  36. Joshua

    There’s one kind a new and recently launched called Uniformen.co.uk.

    Not many users there, though.

  37. Justin Lee

    Fridae.com >160k members.. beats all the websites profiled here…

  38. dinis

    yup, Gaydar is missing, very popular everywhere.

  39. Marshall

    re gay.com and gaydar exclusion: I just reviewed what is being tgalked about right now in blogs and tags - both of these would have been good and will include them in the future. thanks

  40. Cedric

    Interesting to see how people are confused between a dating site (the gay leaders are gay.com and gaydar.co.uk) and a social network site like Jake.org

    Social Networks and dating sites grew out of online communities. So what makes a social network and what makes a dating site? Features? Positioning? Target market?

    As anyone managed to get laid using LinkedIn yet? :-)

    By the way, Mike, your rainbow flag is not very 2.0
    The current one only has 6 stripes (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rainbow_flag).

  41. Jamie Thingbox

    And there’s my little baby, http://www.thingbox.com/

    It’s possibly the largest Ruby On Rails-based community site anywhere. How much more Web 2.0 do you want?

  42. Chris

    You forgot to mention http://www.manhunt.net, it is more of a dating/hookup site, but it is probably the most successful of all of them out there.

  43. ABCotaa

    @41 And the fact that it’s based on Ruby On Rails means…..what? to the end user?

  44. nsbcl

    The website Big Jock looks like it uses phpFox. Hundreds of sites use phpFox which is a very limited and buggy software. For only $39.99 a month anyone can have a social network… not sure that a review of this social network is merited in Techcrunch.

  45. Jamie Thingbox

    It means from a team of 1 person working in their spare time, they get more features from a free to use site quicker than teams of 7 or 8 working full time and charging subscription fees.

  46. ProTibet

    So after looking at such a vast number of gay sites, is it really worth launching another one?

  47. MovieWalah

    Apart from Jake no traffic numbers are mentioned, it’d be interesting to see if any of these sites get any kind of traction or they are just “coming out” to make whatever money is left to be made…..

  48. Snapple Apple

    I didn’t know there where so many

  49. Jamie Thingbox

    Thingbox has around 5000 members. 30 million page views since launch just under 18 months ago, and around 900,000 private messages sent. And about 600,000 forum postings.

  50. Matt

    Of course, there is Gay.com

  51. Kai

    Good luck for bringing a great new social networking site to the gay guys in the States! As you recognized, the UK already has a few aimed at different markets, including Jake for business professionals and OUTeverywhere.com for pure social networking - its members organise around 5,000 events every year and its forums have more than 5 *million* posts. It’s been around since 1995, so good to see the States catching up with the UK for once ;)

  52. n00b

    What about digg.com? At first glance it seems like just a news site, but the community feature are pretty deep.

  53. Tcruncher

    Right on n00b! digg.com is definitely a big gay social community!

  54. Amit

    Niche social sights will rule the world one day. I have other sites in mind:

    - HoseDown.Com -> Social community for firefighters
    - TeachMeNow.Com -> Social community for the inept
    - 6thStreetGs.Net -> Social Community for the gang members of 6th and Hawthorne in LA

    :)

  55. G

    Here’s the first Man 2 Man Mobile Social Networking Site…

    http://www.mCruising.com

  56. WormInBuffet

    It seems hard to drive traffic to the huge growth of these sites. It’s a veritable orgy of male interaction that may explode in a world less inhibited. i’m groping for words here, and don’t mean to jerk your readers around but the potential load is enormous.

  57. Don

    Gross!!

  58. lidrol

    Not really sure why there is such a diferentiation nor the need for special sites

  59. Francis Burdett

    One has to guess that this post was in response to “National Coming Out Day” which was October 11th (which though welcomed as a nod to the gay&lesbian community is akin to posting about Latin social networking sites on Cinco De Mayo but with the caveat that likely only no more than a third of the even the gay community knew yesterday was NCOD)

    >I won’t pretend to speak for gay men and I’m sure there are some sites I’m missing, but these appear to be the most talked about gay male social networking sites online.

    Well speaking _as_ a gay man, I have never heard of any of these sites except for DListed and Connexion (the latter for no other reason than I _think_ that it has been a blog ad here on TechCrunch).

    Although perhaps not “Web 2.0″ surely gaydar.co.uk, gay.com, bigmuscle.com and manhunt.com ….outstrip… the number of users of the sites listed above.

    If one makes a distinction between a “social networking” site and a “gurl-get-your-groove-on” sites the only one listed by Mr. Kirkpatrick that would fall in the latter and not the former appear to be Jake and perhaps Connexion. The others while definitely not explicit like Manhunt et al, certainly still show a good deal of skin.

  60. Francis Burdett

    >certainly still show a good deal of skin.

    Not that there is anything wrong with _that_ :-)

  61. Joey

    The need for different sites is advertising, pointless crap not targeted to you at all, and feeling more welcome. Sites like MySpace just let trolling be, all the gay groups there are worthless and full of nothing but trolls. I don’t even check the groups on there anymore.

    Thanks for this post, it’s very much appreciated. I didn’t even know these sites were out there yet!

  62. Ben

    Marshall, thanks for the great post. A simple rundown like this that embraces inclusion and interaction (and business) within the _entire_ tech community is fantastic. You’ve made me an even more loyal reader than I already was. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have some clicking to do.

  63. Limmerick

    I didn’t see you mention a couple of sites like justusboys.com (big profile system and free) and gay.com which has to be the biggest. There is also one called biggercity. Here are the ones I visit and an indication of their traffic…

    http://www.alexaholic.com/www......usboys.com

  64. Carol

    Way to go, techcrunch. It’s nice to see that someone has the chutzpah to review social networks of all stripes. Ignore the homophobes. Just call it like you see it. No big deal.

  65. Real Man

    I’m not really afraid of gays, so phobic isn’t the issue. I’m more disgusted by two men putting their penis’ in each others anuses (there’s corn and bacteria in there - btw, sperm is for eggs, not colons). Yeah, not afraid, repulsed. So, realize that anytime your hear the term homophobe, aptly replace that word with the word repulsed and you’ll be more on target with what 98.9% of the people feel. Don’t be hatin’, just flying my straight flag.

  66. One for the ladies

    As you can see, gay areas are primarily dominated by MEN. Kinda like the old days when women were not allowed to golf… The ladies need to stick together.

    One site aimed at doing just that is http://www.unifornication.com

    This website is being built for strictly for lesbians and due out soon. Unifornication is in pre-alpha stage, open to the public, free, and offering $100 to those that register, rate and review… every month!

    Features are being added daily and is expected to reach Beta by Halloween.

  67. Ty

    In 1 year from this date I will make the prediction that I be the most well known gay tech guy on the planet. If you’re smart, watch what I will do to GuyParty.com (um techcrunch, type in “gay social network” and GuyParty is on the first page! 40k+ users).

    By the way, there are a TON of wannabes in the gay dating/social network market. If you look at traffic and advertising revenue alone, none of the social network Myspace clones come even close to what kind of traffic hook up sites are doing like adam4adam.com and manhunt.net. Gaydar is a joke and Gay.com is spamtastic a chat-only benefit for joining.

    Who cares what features these social network sites claim to have in terms of being the most Myspace like. Myspace has the most gays of all sites combined and no other site will be able to match that traction. Ask most gays and they will tell you that if you want to meet a gay guy online go to Craigslist, Gay.com, an AOL chatroom, Myspace, Adam4adam or Manhunt. It’s easy to see which site is doing well by how many active online users there are during peak hours. Even my site GuyParty.com has had a struggle attracting and retaining due to “the myspace phenomena” and most paid sites are becoming ad supported. There won’t be enough advertisers to support all these clones and the reality is that the hook up sites are doing so well and much more connected to the promoters within the industry none of these social networking sites set themselves up for long term sustainability.

    But wait, there is a way for these social networking sites to explode in myspace like proportions. After all the trial and error developing the best features for GuyParty, I only recently realized the answer to massive growth. I won’t say exactly what that is of course here where all my competitors may be looking. The answer is so simple yet its so powerful that applying the idea may lead to a new myspace like growth opportunity.

    If you’re in the Los Angeles area and want to know more email me.

  68. Ty

    gigaboy20 at yahoo is where u can find me. I’d love to talk to web 2.0 gay tech guys. That’s one real niche of a niche of a niche group that’s hard to network with. Maybe we can start a gay tech web 2.0+ mailing list to share ideas, network and collaborate. Contact me if anyone is interested in this idea. If all us smart fags get together we can probably do great things to help the gay community at large which in general eats itself out - no pun intended.

  69. Tom Morris

    “This is just wonderful. What’s next? NAMBLA social networking sites?”

    Ladies and gentlemen, this is Karl Rove speaking. Just so you know, “gay” and “child molester” are now officially synonyms. This change will be reflected in tonight’s Two Minute Hate. Before that, though, we return to the 700 Club with the great man himself, Paaaat Robertson who will help you find demons in your town.

  70. Matthew

    One more to add to that list: http://www.queensspeech.com
    …launch is scheduled for the start of January and will be a true social network aimed at the entire ‘lgbt’ community - not just men looking for a ‘quickie’.

  71. David Harris

    Going one step further with the social networking is http://www.AdultWork.co.uk. They do have a gay site (www.GaySwap.co.uk) not really to my tastes although there do seem to be a few lesbians on there displaying their ‘goods’!

    AdultWork.co.uk is definitely worth a browse, kind of like the MySpace for adults

  72. Patricia

    Thank you for saying this:

    Niche social networks are likely a viable business because they allow specialized functionality and a subjective community feel as opposed to general interest sites that defer to either the lowest common denominator or the 15-25 year old demographic. Many people want to participate in social networks, but many people prefer networks set up for people they can relate to. That makes sense to me.

    I think it’s hard to migrate business and people minds off of MySpace right now, as it’s been where a lot of people have cut their teeth on interactive communities, but I own a niche site, participate in a lot of niche communities, and it’s just not for everybody. I said this to an exec at MySpace not long ago - he said, “we have the eyeballs”. and I said, “yea, but not everybody wants your client”.

    i think it’s comments like this that explain why I said that - and why niche sites need to thrive!

  73. Seeing the Trend

    I think Patricia has it right, even over time, the crowd at myspace will soon need to grow up and go to work. They are skilled at social networking, but need to find new clothes.. where will they go?

  74. Alex

    downelink.com is actually a pretty big GLBT social network community. The site seems to be multi-racial.

  75. Meredith

    Major kudos to TechCrunch for publishing this. I am also impressed with the commenters, most of whom are pretty mature about it, rather than promising to leave TechCrunch forever.

  76. Skiperfox

    Thx, alot. I just had my coming out a while ago, and now i am looking for a proper social network. unfortunatly most are uk or us based and my regional ones are mostly like gaydar :(

    And I stubled over this here : gays.com

    Anybody knows whats coming on there ?

  77. Leon

    Have you tried BigJock.com? It is local, US-based and live. Pretty cool and seems to be working out the kinks. They have a news headlines section, not sure what this will be, but says Coming This Week.

  78. gay

    I think manjam is doing something great by allowing people to actually network via their personal profile. many of these sites are just sex hookup sites and are really boring.

    check out these great profiles and why they are different:

    ozmarky has video and actually talks about himself instead of wanking! great profile!
    http://www.manjam.com/ozmarky

    goldenboy uses his profile to network for Business and has a Resume:
    http://www.manjam.com/goldenboy5187

    wolfsblue is using his profile to network his accommodation in palm spings:
    http://www.manjam.com/wolfsblue

  79. Troy

    There is another new social networking site that is based on different lifestyles and they have a listing for “GAY/LESBIAN/BI.” Seems like a cool site where you can meet people from all over the place. http://www.muvas.com

  80. dd

    gay

  81. Troy

    You should check out http://www.muvas.com. They offer social networking by lifestyles so you can meet gay/lesbian/bi people as well as anything from artists, musicians etc. It’s good to have niche sites just for one interest but that only limits what the site can offer. On Muvas you can meet people based on over 50 different lifestyles, for whatever reason you want and you can add pics, write blogs and share music. http://www.muvas.com

  82. daniel

    i am looking for house job in europe.i am 26 yrs and i live senegal.i am ready to serve any boby in europe.

  83. Jared

    Looks like there is another one to add to the list
    http://www.cruisingformen.net

    Looks like a clean nice design

  84. michael

    hi i really enjoy this site well am just new and am now screwing every pla ce i just want all fellas to know i was here.

    YOMIGO

  85. Atomic

    How come you did not delve into the more popular sites for men who love men like http://www.AtomicMen.com

    The are many sites that you can choose to look for love or not.